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By this point in time, there are countless movements and charities out in the world today that are focused on what are considered important.

There are movements based of religious tolerance, same sex marriage, political awareness, animal rights, women’s rights, global warming, and the countless ribbons that we see in support of cancer research, bringing the troops home, etc.

As men that have faced domestic violence as the victim, we are not only rather silent, but those of us that are saying that this kind of this is a real plight are damn near ridiculed so severely that we are afraid to say anything about it.

I feel that it would be great if we came up with ideas, or even an ad campaign to show that we are people that are worth standing up for. We get into these positions so many times because we are the men that refuse to strike a woman… we really are nice guys that get smacked around because we won’t be “that guy” and hit a woman no matter how much she pissed us off, or no matter what we might have been arguing about.

We suffer in silence because we know that we will be looked at as less of a man if we said a damn word.

When was the last time you heard a joke about a guy getting his arse kicked by his wife because he got out of line?

Now flip the sides here… because while it is considered OK for a woman to beat on a man, we men are not even allowed to consider joking about domestic violence with the woman being smacked around.

With this all in mind, what are some of your ideas on how we can spread the word about what is happening?


Sit Rep: 24/7/2011


Went out for a wee bit of fun with my West Coast Pal Stefanie a.k.a. Winsauce, Detroit Velvet Smooth, Tha Globetrotter, and later on G. A. Double R. E. Double T.

Had dinner at a place called Red Onion, and had some of the best Thai food ever, and then checked out McMenamin’s at the Kennedy School.  Pics will follow on my facebook page.

I will miss hanging out with Winsauce when I return to the motor city, but I have a feeling that we might actually stay in contact, so that will be cool. I really like having friends all over the world, and she is the kind of person that would fit so well into the kliq in Detroit, she would be adopted into the family in something around 2.5 seconds.

Been 3 days now since I spoke to a certain Red Headed Harbinger of Slugbugs… and I am kinda worried about things there. If for no other reason than I know she was having a rough go of it. She is a stronger person than many have given credit for… so unless there is a real problem, I am not too worried… just kinda worried.

Here is something to lighten the mood: 

Sit Rep: 23/7/2011


Constant headaches and the grind of learning this new project aside, I am having a hell of a time here in Portland, Oregon.

I fly back in on the 29th, and am hoping that there are some good things waiting for me back in Metro Detroit, because outside of the job, I am not so sure if there is really enough incentive for me to comeback.

While I have been feeling a little homesick from time to time, I know what is causing it… and well, who knows?

There is only so much that I can do from this side of the country, and seriously speaking, I am both nervous, and tired.

Goodnight, tá súil agam labhairt le tú ar maidin. Is breá liom tú.